Saturday, January 18, 2014

Crazy, Wild, Life-Affirming Varanasi


 Varanasi is the holiest of 7 holy Indian cities.   It is the Hindu Mecca.  It's Jerusalem and Rome.   I can easily say that it is the craziest, wildest, holiest city I've ever seen. 

It sits beside the Ganges, river of the gods.   Wide and muddy, the river runs the length of the subcontinent, starting in the Himalayas and emptying into the Arabian Sea.   Hindus come to Varanasi to cremate their dead, cure their ills and pray for hope.   It is also here, on the banks of the river, where all of life's cycles play out in microcosm every day.   And it is simultaneously frightening, wonderful and mesmerizing to watch.

Varanasi is a city of 3 million people and yet there is not a single traffic light.  Imagine walking in what you think is a pedestrian mall when suddenly cars, motorcycles, rickshaws, cows, goats, dogs and taxis, come at you from all directions.  There is no center line.   There are no shoulders.  Everyone on the "walkway" vies for the very limited space and maneuvers in circles  just to move forward.   No stop signs, no traffic cops.  Nothing to bring some semblance of order to the chaos.   Just crossing the street is a lesson in prayer:  As soon as you spot a small gap it's every man

for himself, as you dart across, holding your breathe.  Vehicles, bicycles, animals and people come at you from all directions.   You wish you had eyes on all sides of your head and hope that the vehicles' drivers see you and have enough time and space to avoid hitting you.  One crosses the street here, as in the other big Indian cities, on a wing and a prayer.

The narrow, crowded lanes of Varanasi's old city are packed with people, shops, and the ubiquitous dogs, one of which, in particular, had haunted my sleep for the 2 nights we were there. I had been acclimating to the culture shock that is Varanasi when I first met him.

We were sipping a pomegranite lassi in a dive with an open view of the street, when a funeral procession passed by on its way down to the river.   The corpse was wrapped in a brightly colored ruby red and gold thread sari and was carried by 4 men on a simple stretcher over the heads of the crowds.  Bodies are sprayed with I don't know what, and the odor was actually intoxicatingly sensual.  Like many old cities throughout the world, the streets  are only wide enough for 1 1/2 people to walk side by side.  We had to physically press ourselves against the walls of the buildings in order to let funeral processions pass.  Music blares from CD shops, Hindu chants echo from the Temples and tourists negotiate with shop keepers as dead bodies float overhead on beds of simple wooden rods and burlap.

Down by the river the scene is even more bizarre.

There is a 4-mile long "promenade" that runs along the river.  But this is no French Rivieria or even Atlantic City.  The promenade is littered with garbage, cow dung and dog poop, the homeless, the deformed, the beggars, the religious, merchant hawkers, incongruous tourists from Japan and elsewhere, and the pious from all parts of India who have pilgrimaged here to dip in the mystical waters of the Ganges; to cure an ill, to bring good luck, to bury a body.  Every few hundred feet along this promenade is a "ghat," a wide opening in the walkway, with narrow steps running the length of the opening that lead down to the river.  It is at these ghats where life comes out of the closet and is lived in full view,  displaying both its glory and its revulsion.  The religious perform rites while seated in semi-circles, lead by their Hindu leaders, chanting, praying and eating symbolic foods, surrounded by flowers and burning incense.  Dogs, goats and cows relieve themselves and give birth here.  Local residents bathe and perform their morning and evening hygiene routines, soaping up their bodies and head and brushing their teeth.   Women clean themselves with their clothes on.  Laundry is washed at the ghats, children run errands and men play cricket.  Families picnic here.  The women's saris bring bursts of color to the grey ghat stage- bright red with silver trim,  sunflower yellow, magenta, turquoise and emerald.  Copper, gold and silver bangles adorn every arm and ankle.  Some of the more religious have painted their faces white, wear white cloth around their bodies, and, Ghandi-style,  hold walking sticks as they move slowly forward, barefoot, in seemingly no predetermined direction.

When the sun goes down the ghats are lit up by funeral pyres which line the shore.  Scores of pyres, -  high plumes of fire, smoke and ash - can be seen all along the river bank as each family cremates the body of a loved one that they've hauled from the most distant of Indian villages and towns.   At a cost of almost $ 1,000, (not including room, board or transportation), this is a hefty price for most Indians.  Although a restricted area around each pyre is reserved for family only,  we were able to get fairly close and wandered among the piles and piles of massive wood stacks that are burned each and every day and night.  The dogs picked at the cooled down bones.  Ashes are scattered in the river and both family members and tourists set small candles afloat in the water as an offering to the departed.  No one cried.

The most disturbing part of Varanasi is what Leora and I called "The Walk of Shame."  No cars are permitted within about 1/4 mile of the old city.  Visitors and pilgrims alike walk through a true pedestrian walkway, divided in the center with metal rails.   Along the entire distance from the car park to the old city's entry and back, are beggars, lepers, and families living on the street.  Of course, dogs are plentiful and compete for scraps of food and a piece of cardboard to keep their bellies warm during the night when the temperatures dip very close to freezing.  Kids in rags and no shoes, beg for coins as their parents keep a watchful eye on their effort.  Amputees display their stumps and the dogs keep searching.   Hawkers beg you to buy their trinkets of plastic toys, half-filled balloons and pens.

But of all the sights I saw in Varanasi it was one particular dog I kept thinking about all night, and obviously still today, 5 days later.  He was a beautiful sand-colored mutt, curled up into himself on the side of the river, next to a few friends.  The top of his head had a huge gash and the flesh of the skull was exposed to the cold night air.  A man standing nearby told me that the mutt had been in a brawl with another dog.  A vet, he said, would come, for a mere $40, and fix him up- dress the wound, give him some antibiotics and bandage the area.  I didn't do it.   All night, while I was warm in my bed, I thought of him and his open wound, with nothing between it and the wet, frigid and windy air.  I actually prayed for the first time in decades for that dog.  We left early the next morning so I didn't have time to help him.    I hope someone kinder than me does.

If all of this sounds like its too much to take, you would be right.   On the other hand, I came to view Varanasi as the truth.  No sugar coatings here.  Absolutely nothing hidden behind garden walls and fences.  Humankind and the cosmos are exposed in all their wonder and dread.

I don't think I'll be returning anytime soon.









Monday, January 13, 2014

Work and Nepal

 I can't believe they call this "work!"

For 3 days we are based in Patan, only 3.2 miles. from Kathmandu, but more than 30 minutes drive because of the insane traffic here.   One lane and no shoulders for cars, bikes, motorcycles, pedal cabs and pedestrians, all colliding as they maneuvre through the congestion.   Its every man (and woman) for himself.   My leg brushed up against several motorcycle exhaust fans and I walked into a car's side mirror, slamming it inward against the car's window.   Both the window and my arm survived intact.

Patan is the home base of ex-pats, NGO's (the acronym for non-governmental organizations such as Amnesty International),  their employees and approximately 163,000 Nepalese.  There is little visible sign of the many tourists who come to Kathmandu to equip themselves and organize treks to the nearby Himalayan mountains, including the world's highest peak, Mt. Everest.

Patan's central square is an open air museum, filled with at least a half dozen or more temples, surrounded by shops, cafes, residences and a fabulous museum about the Hindu gods.  Non-residents (i.e. tourists) are required to pay $2.50 for the privilege of walking in the area.

Our first meeting was with UNFPA - the UN's population fund which works to improve the lives of women and children, in particular.    PROOF always partners with local and international partners in order to produce a custom exhibition and program suited for regional needs.

According to a report commissioned recently by UNFPA and others, one in five women in Nepal reported a lifetime experience of physical violence and one in ten reported a lifetime experience of sexual violence.   Trafficking of girls for sex in India is of particular  concern.  Other specific forms of violence in Nepal include dowry-related violence, widow abuse, polygamy and accusations of witchcraft.

There is a statute of limitations here of a mere 35 days for a victim of rape to report the crime.  Further, domestic violence is not considered a crime at all.  Its appalling but not surprising that seventy-five percent of  Nepalese women who have experienced sexual or physical violence did not report the crime.  Lack of trust in the police and judiciary, the failure to prosecute even the most egregious of crimes, and the potential stigma and social isolation from her community dis-incents survivors from reporting the rape.

UNFPA is particularly focused on changing the 35-day reporting limitation and in strengthening the domestic violence laws.

PROOF discussed providing a 2-day conference and workshop that would bring together policymakers, womens' rights NGO's and survivors during the 16 Days of Activism (Against Gender Violence), scheduled to take place globally from Nov. 25-Dec. 10, 2014.   In addition, an exhibition including photographs and oral testimonies taken from those women and girls brave enough to tell their stories, will travel to 16 regions during the 16 days of activism.   The goal is to educate survivors about where and how to obtain psychological, social and medical help;  get the policymakers to enact appropriate laws and to raise awareness in communities that the victim is not to blame.

Tomorrow we'll meet with a representative of the international Human Rights Watch as well as several local NGO's.   PROOF needs as many partners as possible to help with not just finding the participants but for funding as well.

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More about Nepal..............

After Delhi, Agra and Varanasi (more about crazy Varanasi in the next post), Kathmandu is positively civil. There's a desperation in Indian cities that is hard to take.  The madness of surviving the traffic, pollution, filthy streets, the mass of people, the homeless dogs, the wandering cows, and the beggars are no where to be seen here where the streets are paved and spotless and I've seen only 1 beggar 1 dog and no cows.  The extremes of poverty and wealth are not nearly as obvious or ubiquitous here as in India, where multi-million dollar apartment complexes overlook vast slums.  Here in Nepal's capital, the rich, I guess, are  hidden behind garden walls because I haven't seen anything that would give them away.

BUT while India has electricity and heat 24/7 (for those rich enough to afford it) electricity is only turned on from 1pm until about 7pm.  No lights (or heat) in our room.   We did somehow have intermittent hot water in our shower this morning which warmed us up a bit after a somewhat chilly night (just above freezing).

Tomorrow evening we leave for Kolkata (formally known as Calcutta)  to meet with partners on a project there.   I've never been to the city made famous by the work of Mother Theresa and the book, City of Joy, one of my all-time favorites.

  Its back to bedlam.





 
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